Dating in the City

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So dating is the big topic around my circles of highly educated, accomplished, driven, cultured and SINGLE women. How can you balance all of your dreams and goals while finding the time to meet new people which may or may not lead to dating. As I said in my last post I am a dreamer and I spend a lot of time drafting plans to accomplish those dreams while actually working to accomplish those dreams and maintaining a full-time job. With being health conscious, career and passion driven there is just not enough hours in the day!

So I attended a singles mixer a few weeks ago geared towards women and men like myself who find it hard to meet people due to their hectic schedule. I had a great time at the ‘Mix and Mingle’ event and was introduced to the host who also has a program called the ‘Social Experience’ where she gets a bunch of information from each person and sets you up on blind dates with potential matches.

If you are anything like me it is really hard to put yourself out there and takes a lot of strength to go along with this because we are not ‘daters’ in the traditional sense.  We appreciate an organic and natural progression from friendship into a relationship. But as it was so eloquently pointed out to me “Where have you been going to meet new people everyday?” in response I screamed “EVERYDAY!?!?!”

Face it, majority of us tend to go places where we could meet new people with our close friends so stay in our comfort zone and don’t actually meet anyone new. If that’s not already a big problem we only do this once or twice a month so in all honestly when do we meet new people…..never. So with that revelation I swiftly signed up for this ‘Social Experience’ and have been matched with a few people. In the next few days I will going on these dates and I plan on going in there with an open mind while sharing my experience with  you all. I encourage anyone out there with a similar story to try something new, put yourself out there so that you may meet your new ‘bae’ or future husband/wife.

Please comment and let me know if you’ve tried blind dating, online dating, or some other creative way to get yourself out there while being a…. (insert profession) In The City!

~Be Fearlessly Authentic~
Reba J.

Life of a Dreamer


So I just came  across a video on youtube about ‘Patience and Perseverance’ for the dreamers of the world. This video hit the nail on the head for me because I have so many ideas and concepts that I come up with on a daily basis. I have dreams of doing much more than I am right now and have this gut feeling that there is so much more out there for me to accomplish.

The point that was made in this video was that this just may not be your time to accomplish what you know to be your destiny because you have lessons to be learned in your current space. One of those lessons may be practicing gratitude because why would the Lord bless you with more opportunities if you don’t appreciate your current situtaiton. This can be really hard for dreamers because we tend to live in the future and what we would like to accomplish and great things that we can see happening that we tend to forget about what is happening in the moment and all of the blessings around us. This leads to the first point of patience. Whew! Patience is something that I struggle with and I have to remind myself constantly that things will not happen automatically and anything worth have is worth working and waiting for. I have to believe that God has a plan for me and as long as I stay in the moment while continuing to dream I will gain so much wisdom and knowledge so when I achieve the ‘much more’ I will know to give God the glory and be able to share my story with others.

Right now my life looks great to others and I know there are people who would love to be in the position that I am right now which is why I have to live in the moment and appreciate the blessings that I’ve already been given while mentally preparing myself for my ‘much more’.

Just thought that I would share this for all of the dreamers out there….appreciate your current situation and practice patience while waiting on your dreams to come to fruition and know that when you perservere you must give God the glory!!!

~Be Fearlessly Authentic~

Reba J.

June 1st- New Beginnings

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As we venture into June with excitement for new opportunities and experiences I like to take this time to reflect. Since this is my birth month it is really important that I take this time to rejuvenate and go into this next year of my life fearlessly and with purpose. In order to accomplish this I am starting three challenges today and will push to follow them for the entire month and hopefully start the next year of my life with new habits and tendencies. I would love to share my challenges with you and hopefully it will inspire you to embark on challenges of  your own. 

 

  1. Financial Plan
    1. No eating out
    2. Don’t use Credit Cards
    3. Only purchase necessities
    4. Drive purposefully (No wasted trips)
    5. Follow weekly budget

 

  1. Spiritual Plan
    1. Target: Clarity and Purpose
    2. Method
      1. Daily Devotionals
      2. Meditation Corner

 

  1. Fitness Plan
    1. Focus
      1. Cardio, Squats, Planks, Free Weights
    2. Schedule
      1. Monday- Cardio, Planks, Free Weights, Squats (1 Hour)
      2. Tuesday-Cardio, Planks, Free Weights, Squat (1 Hour)
      3. Wednesday-Cardio, Planks, Free Weights, Squat (1 Hour)
      4. Thursday- Cardio, Planks, Free Weights, Squat (1 Hour)
      5. Friday-Cardio, Planks, Free Weights, Squat (1 Hour)

~Be Fearlessly Authentic!!!~