The Professional Retreat

burningbridges

Something that has been bothering me recently has been what I call the “Professional Retreat” which is when people in professional careers quit without the proper notice or any care for the concept of burning bridges. It baffles me that people find it so easy to just not show up for a job without actually “quitting” but using that as a passive aggressive way of obtaining the same result.

I remember when I first started working I was told that it is important to always give two weeks notice if you know that you would like to leave a job and if you are unable to give two weeks to at least give written notice and try to make sure you allocate your responsibilities and documents to another person in preparation for your “retreat”. In the past month I have heard multiple stories and have seen people leave jobs without saying a word and refusing to answer the phone when management tries to inquire about what is going on.

The worst story that I’ve heard is from my mother who works in the medical field as Nurse taking care of the elderly. Not sure if you all know but being a nurse is a 24/7 type of position because they are unable to take off on all standard business holidays and there has to be a person present in order to relieve the current nurse. Well one night after my mothers 12 hour shift the person who was supposed to release her did not show up, he didn’t call, didn’t answer any of the calls from her and other managers. Sadly, this is not the first time that my mother has had to deal with this in nursing positions because there are so many opportunities that retention is a major issue. What baffled me is that they are responsible for elderly people’s healthcare and wellbeing and still didn’t take into consideration that they should at least provide management with notice.

I personally think this is a generational issue because we have lost the human aspect of our society. People hide behind computers, text messages, emails and other forms of communication in order to get away from the face to face or phone communication of the past. People are now afraid to express anything negative so they rather take the passive aggressive route and say nothing at all. I have seen this phenomenon in personal relationships, careers, and overall human behavior. **Please note I am not bashing because I have had my share of addressing certain situations in this manner.**

I feel that we need to get back to the foundation of building and nurturing relationships because we have all heard “Don’t burn bridges” but do we really understand what this means. Even if the situation ends in a way we were not expecting at least try to be cordial because you never know when you might need or see that person again or in terms of the analogy, when you might need to cross that bridge again.

How do you all feel about this concept and what are some stories that you’ve encountered in your career or personal life?

 

~Be Fearlessly Authentic~

Reba J.

 

Situational Learning

Yes they will forever all the bad things that happen to you be optimistic and expect the best things about them.

 

Situational learning” is the process of reflecting on negative situations and discovering the learning opportunity instead of focusing on the negative aspects.

Imagine how much more bearable life would be if you were able to easily attach to the positive aspects of every situation in life. I mean you would be at peace with all outcomes, released from stress, and open to living fearlessly.  That type of Freedom is what I strive for and situational learning has been a catalyst for me achieving the level of Freedom.

Some background on myself is that I have a tendency of reflecting on situations in my life through the “what did I miss?“, “what did I do to cause this negative thing to happen”,or even blaming the other party. I noticed that because of my thought process I started to dwell on things from years ago instead of receiving the lesson and moving on with that newly acquired knowledge.Living in past is even more detrimental than buying into negative situations. While living in the past you will likely miss all of the great opportunities currently presented to you and it will eventually develop into a state of depression because there is literally nothing you can do to change the past. You only have control over the NOW.

This concept has been taught through religion by the concept of faith where you are trusting in a higher power and understanding that there are no mistakes. It has also been taught through Law of Attraction where your mindset controls the outcome of different situations in life so if you approach each situation in a positive light then more positivity will enter your space. Literally you attract your thoughts! I could go on and on with the different quotes, movies, and songs that speak to this concept but overall it is just “Mind over Matter”.

I will end this post just encouraging you to really reflect on your thought about each area of your life and trying to identify the negative spaces and actively pursue a state of positivity. Remember it all begins with your thought!

“If somebody says something negative to you, do not react. You have to get yourself to a point where you can stay calm and peaceful inside no matter what negative things happen on the outside. When  you can maintain peace and joy within you despite any situation on the outside, you have become the master of everything.”

~The Secret Daily Teachings

-Be Fearlessly Authentic-

Reba J.